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I am bored, or dating ideas. a.k.a. (stupidest idea ever?)

This is not a drag myself in the dirt post, it is simply a reflection of myself at this time:

Just to prove I am serious business and not just being a sap;
Lets start with Wedding Crashers quote:

Janice: I've got the perfect girl for you! Jeremy Grey: [sigh] Janice, I apologize to you if I don't seem real eager to jump into a forced awkward intimate situation that people like to call dating. I don't like the feeling. You're sitting there, you're wondering do I have food on my face, am I eating, am I talking too much, are they talking enough, am I interested I'm not really interested, should I play like I'm interested but I'm not that interested but I think she might be interested but do I want to be interested but now she's not interested? So all of the sudden I'm getting, I'm starting to get interested... And when am I supposed to kiss her? Do I have to wait for the door cause then it's awkward, it's like well goodnight. Do you do like that ass-out hug? Where you like, you hug each other like this and your ass sticks out cause you're trying not to get too close or do you just go right in and kiss them on the lips or don't kiss them at all? It's very difficult trying to read the situation. And all the while you're just really wondering are we gonna get hopped up enough to make some bad decisions? Perhaps play a little game called "just the tip". Just for a second, just to see how it feels. Or, ouch, ouch you're on my hair. Janice: Okay...

I got a one month free membership to eharmony.

Think I should use it? I want to meet women that are not crazy and like EDM (Pref. the darker side of techy beats and not fluffy fuckin trance)

Technoharmony.com? you have found a match..... yea, i'm hoping it works kinda like that. hah!

There's gotta be someone out there that is compatible with me...

Here is the way I see it:

Straight to the point: Obviously, we all just want to meet someone who is just like them and has to put little or no work into. 1. getting the person to like them. 2. share hobbies (although a little variety is nice) 3. click

Out in the club and from many months of constantly meeting people at Avalon; I have learned this:

I have no problem inducing conversation. I can practically talk to anybody! I consider myself a very social coma coma coma chameloeon. Its the majority of people I meet are of very little substance.. and it just makes me less inclined to put myself out there.

The people I do meet and practically love in every sense (personality, views on their idea of fun, attractiveness) I am not shallow in thye least of the sense, I actively seek out the most interesting, thought provoking, honest, caring people.. seems they are: 1. taken, 2. not interested in me 3. not attracted to me. 4. seem physically out of my social league.

On the other flipside: I absolutely agree that there are tons of people that somebody can click with, its just getting out there and finding them.

The types of people I meet out there that I described as "just like me".... (in a sense, they might seem like the right person for me) but likely that I am not the right person for them.. two way street? perhaps, perhaps, perhaps.
The "social league" nonsense you hear so much about is only the best way i can think to describe those types of people...its not that they are "out" of anything, its just they are not IN MY LEAGUE! haha. ;)

To all the relationship pros out there: I'm sure even your spidey sense tingles when you like a person for everything that they appear to be.. and gauge them against a broken chart of ideals (in your head)

If I can offer JUST ONE piece of awesome advice: BE YOURSELF! I know we are constantly bombarded with this over and over, but it is ABSOLUTELY THE TRUTH!

If you are not yourself, your own "I dont give a fuck" self and having fun.. you WILL meet someone, because they can see you for who you really are. Everyone wears a social mask, its up to you to see beyond that.. not necessarily behind it...

Here's the thing. Every one of us have things that we believe about ourselves when nobody else is looking, nobody else is listening, nobody else is monitoring what we're doing. We believe things about ourself. We put on a social mask, and we put our best foot forward. We go out there and what everybody does is, they compare their reality with everybody else's social mask. And that doesn't work at all.

Do not pass go, proceed to opportunity ave. :)

See some of you at COMPRESSION tonight.


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